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Louise Williams's avatar

Good thinking!

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Laura's avatar

I am so much more confident in what I'm doing when I dress comfortsbly - head to toe. No patience for potential wardrobe malfunctions!

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Chris Andrews's avatar

Oh yes. Wearing the right clothes is like magic.

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Hannah's avatar

Your writing always takes me in several directions.

Somewhere I have a dress very similar to the photo. I have never felt feminine enough to wear it. It's 30 years old. Still in the paper it came in.

When I see these hypersexualized pics of celebrities barely wearing anything, I wonder what makes a person need to do that. It doesn't stir my imagination, it makes me feel stupid for looking. Sexiness by formula isn't sexy.

Dressing for one's self is normal.

Congrats on the doll. My grandmother sent me one,it was a ballerina, so heavy on the porcelain. My sister broke it and hid it in a cabinet. My mom hid it for her. I wasn't real, so it didn't matter.

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Chris Andrews's avatar

I love what you write ❤️

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Hannah's avatar

I love what you write ❤️

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David Holzman's avatar

Chris you're absolutely right about this stuff. I'm sure I'd be doing what you're doing, were I a woman!

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Debra Baron's avatar

I don't understand why so many people are intolerant of androgyny. I'm actually fascinated by it, and there is no reason to put people in neat little boxes. Humanity is too complex for that.

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Chris Andrews's avatar

Right?!

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David Holzman's avatar

Those crazy Homo sapiens! They want to put themselves in little boxes! And then they sit around in coffee houses, going, "Boy, am I complicated!"

And then they feel limited by gender roles, but they don't know how to bust loose!

I think I"m going to drive across the country so that I don't have to worry about bustin' loose! I'll already be bustin' loose! With Lucy Loose Goose!

Am I on Pause yet?

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Chris Andrews's avatar

This sounds like a story in the making…

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David Holzman's avatar

my last cross country road trip was on my bicycle, from Seattle to Boston, in 1975. I'm dying to do that again, though in my car! I want to see my old house in Seattle, and my second grade best friend in Seattle, Ralphie, who I last saw before that bicycle trip, and with whom I argued politics in second grade, during the election where JFK vied with Nixon for the presidency, and who became a Democrat much later in life.

But there are probably a couple of other possible stories. Like busting loose from gender roles!

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Diana van Eyk's avatar

Absolutely! We should dress in whatever way we want. Gender roles can be so limiting.

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David Holzman's avatar

I don't think I can see myself in a bra and panties with a dress on. And if I busted loose and did that, I don't think I"d be adored, admired, or respected, so I'll stick with my gender role. But if you women want to dress in whatever way you want, who am I to tell you you can't?!

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Chris Andrews's avatar

Beauty in all variations.

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