I was recently told by two different people that I was BOTH (nurse and purse) in those exact words…how humiliating. But I appreciated the candor…now time to adjust my approach. Great perspective...now I am terrified of even looking for a new relationship!
Me, too, lol. He found me by reading that article. He thought it was hilarious, donated a big chunk of change and then off we went on our first date. We’re getting married next week 😂
Chris, I’m 60 and I came here expecting a thoughtful discussion about dating later in life.
Instead I’ve met a toothless 65-year-old in a yurt with one cow, developed inappropriate feelings for a mushroom seller’s legs, been propositioned by a broke reverend and finally encountered a man called Mr Gravy Sleeves.
I feel like I’ve been on four dates and I need a fucking lie down. 😂
Also, “nurse or purse” is going straight into my vocabulary.
Although frankly, at this age I’m looking for neither. I’d quite like someone who can make me laugh and manage his own fucking admin. 🍒
Wow, such a collection of stereotypes that foreclose any possibility of love. You could buy into this or believe love is available to you and actually find love. I started the best relationship of my life after divorce, at 56 (admittedly not quite 60), and I know other people who found love in their mature years. Stereotypes blind us to the real and multi-faceted qualities of the person in front of us.
That is sweet for you to worry about others’ happiness. I think for many women, after living life with so much misogyny, they have little tolerance for men and their neediness. And they just find they are happier by themselves or with their girlfriends. I was one of those people, and then I met a really nice guy. And I’m glad to have him as a companion, but I was feeling pretty happy on my own, as well. Glad you found a good person. 😍
I am totally not surprised. Ok, suggesting you consider telling stories at local the Moth events or seriously considering going to a comedy club for rudimentary lessons and trying it out. Minimally this improves your speaking skills and maybe a lot more. Fun, regardless.
I have done The Moth. Was the first one they picked, in fact. Did not win. My story was waaaay too long. And it was super hard not to swear, so that was not the best scenario for me. But I have considered doing one of the SF clubs, as I know them well. Was a comedy club junkie for many years. Perhaps I’ll start by doing a video of me reading or off-the-top-of-my-heading my stuff. Thanks for the ideas and encouragement. Question: do you really think I could start a comedy career at 64?!! If so, you know what? Fuck it. I’m going straight to the top and auditioning for SNL.
Yes, I’m 76, I say go for it, it seems natural to you. Of course, like everything, and you realize from the Moth, writing it and delivering it are two different things but you’re genuinely funny and your view of life common things should carry you if you focus on getting good at the delivery piece which granted is it’s own skill. I’m writing poetry and painting for the first time in my life, after the loss of my wife of 53 years who knew? They say this is the new me I’m enjoying it and I think I’m good at it, but I’m truly a novice, but I’m absorbing everything I can, including master classes, using my Substack site and trying to let my poetry readings be educational and to learn from it rather than just reading it. So yes, I have no question you can do this. And like I said, what do you have to lose regardless you’ll have fun and you’ll improve some skills while you’re at it. The whole commentary of it being too long at the moth is reasonably easily fixed, but hanging out with storyteller and comedy sites, yeah, I think that would rub off and you would learn and then get some training. Best wishes.
My wife and I (both in our mid-60s) have mutually agreed we’d rather sit on the curb and pound on our thumbs with a ball peen hammer than contemplate dating again.
I'm with you, friend. You probably noticed the title of my blog, lol. Truth be told, here's the updated version of my story: I wrote this piece on dating, then one of my favorite guys in town read it, thought it was brilliant, and asked me on a date. Lol!! In fact, he donated a big chunk of $$ to my blog. Yes, tears are streaming down my face (laughter ones, that is). I thought, "Well, if this guy can deal with my snark, why not go out on a date?" That was two and a half years ago. We are getting married mid-Sept. So there you have it. The moral of the story... ah, there isn't one.
I was recently told by two different people that I was BOTH (nurse and purse) in those exact words…how humiliating. But I appreciated the candor…now time to adjust my approach. Great perspective...now I am terrified of even looking for a new relationship!
Both my sister and I met the loves of our lives in our sixties.
Me, too, lol. He found me by reading that article. He thought it was hilarious, donated a big chunk of change and then off we went on our first date. We’re getting married next week 😂
Chris, I’m 60 and I came here expecting a thoughtful discussion about dating later in life.
Instead I’ve met a toothless 65-year-old in a yurt with one cow, developed inappropriate feelings for a mushroom seller’s legs, been propositioned by a broke reverend and finally encountered a man called Mr Gravy Sleeves.
I feel like I’ve been on four dates and I need a fucking lie down. 😂
Also, “nurse or purse” is going straight into my vocabulary.
Although frankly, at this age I’m looking for neither. I’d quite like someone who can make me laugh and manage his own fucking admin. 🍒
Right, Chris. I’m seated.
If it turns out women over 60 are looking for a “wallet or willy”, I’m blaming you entirely for whatever happens in your comments tonight. 🍒
😂 Chris, after the yurt, the cow, the mushroom legs and Mr Gravy Sleeves, I think we’ve already been through too much together NOT to be friends.
You’re in. 🍒
Love it. 💙 The male counterpoint to nurse and purse comes out tonight 🌝
Can we be friends? lol
60. Happily married to a wonderful man for 20 years.
I disregarded all the status shit and chose on the basis of kindness, intelligence, integrity, humor, etc.
Good girl. When it comes down to it, nothing else matters. Zip.
I would love to find a guy who is funny, doesn’t need my money, likes to cook, and loves dogs. What are the chances???
I'm right here!
Love dogs. And they like me too.
Enjoy cooking with someone, and doing dishes together too. (Cooking is art, baking is science)
Don't need your stinking money.
I'm told I'm funny, but I really think I'm more than my looks....
Ok, gals 👆
Hard to know in this day and age. They are out there. I did find one. 😍 But it took a good long while.
Wow, such a collection of stereotypes that foreclose any possibility of love. You could buy into this or believe love is available to you and actually find love. I started the best relationship of my life after divorce, at 56 (admittedly not quite 60), and I know other people who found love in their mature years. Stereotypes blind us to the real and multi-faceted qualities of the person in front of us.
😆 it’s satire, Mina. For some people it’s some much-needed medicine.
How right were you about the ‘sense of humour’ point? 😄
Spot on. Humor is soooo important.
Fair. It's just that I hear versions of this (not satire) all the time. And it makes me sad.
That is sweet for you to worry about others’ happiness. I think for many women, after living life with so much misogyny, they have little tolerance for men and their neediness. And they just find they are happier by themselves or with their girlfriends. I was one of those people, and then I met a really nice guy. And I’m glad to have him as a companion, but I was feeling pretty happy on my own, as well. Glad you found a good person. 😍
All true. Your story is similar to mine. 💕
The over 60 dating scene was not a market I thought I'd want to read about but turns out.... I really really do.
Great piece. Keep it coming
Thank you 🤪
Which is why I don't date. The world's champion idiots will look at me for three seconds and go, "You need to lose weight."
Fuck that.
lol. Better: have another slice of zucchini bread.
Hilarious and so true; I’m 48.
Perfect timing- to save a friend or just make her laugh T/y
This was tragically hilarious!
You should absolutely consider stand-up comedy like right NOW! Seriously. I could not stop laughing and you’re a born deadpan storyteller.
Well, that makes my day. And that would be my dream job. I was the official class clown K-12.
I am totally not surprised. Ok, suggesting you consider telling stories at local the Moth events or seriously considering going to a comedy club for rudimentary lessons and trying it out. Minimally this improves your speaking skills and maybe a lot more. Fun, regardless.
I have done The Moth. Was the first one they picked, in fact. Did not win. My story was waaaay too long. And it was super hard not to swear, so that was not the best scenario for me. But I have considered doing one of the SF clubs, as I know them well. Was a comedy club junkie for many years. Perhaps I’ll start by doing a video of me reading or off-the-top-of-my-heading my stuff. Thanks for the ideas and encouragement. Question: do you really think I could start a comedy career at 64?!! If so, you know what? Fuck it. I’m going straight to the top and auditioning for SNL.
Yes, I’m 76, I say go for it, it seems natural to you. Of course, like everything, and you realize from the Moth, writing it and delivering it are two different things but you’re genuinely funny and your view of life common things should carry you if you focus on getting good at the delivery piece which granted is it’s own skill. I’m writing poetry and painting for the first time in my life, after the loss of my wife of 53 years who knew? They say this is the new me I’m enjoying it and I think I’m good at it, but I’m truly a novice, but I’m absorbing everything I can, including master classes, using my Substack site and trying to let my poetry readings be educational and to learn from it rather than just reading it. So yes, I have no question you can do this. And like I said, what do you have to lose regardless you’ll have fun and you’ll improve some skills while you’re at it. The whole commentary of it being too long at the moth is reasonably easily fixed, but hanging out with storyteller and comedy sites, yeah, I think that would rub off and you would learn and then get some training. Best wishes.
It's always good to share experiences. At least it give your audience a laugh!! Thank you.
My bar is: his mother must be dead, he can’t be in trouble with the IRS and he must have all his teeth!
Pretty low bar.
😂
My wife and I (both in our mid-60s) have mutually agreed we’d rather sit on the curb and pound on our thumbs with a ball peen hammer than contemplate dating again.
I'm with you, friend. You probably noticed the title of my blog, lol. Truth be told, here's the updated version of my story: I wrote this piece on dating, then one of my favorite guys in town read it, thought it was brilliant, and asked me on a date. Lol!! In fact, he donated a big chunk of $$ to my blog. Yes, tears are streaming down my face (laughter ones, that is). I thought, "Well, if this guy can deal with my snark, why not go out on a date?" That was two and a half years ago. We are getting married mid-Sept. So there you have it. The moral of the story... ah, there isn't one.
Well, congratulations! We wish you the very best.
You clearly have a bad attitude about over 60 men I think you should probably not try to date anymore. It's not cute making generalizations like that.
Ouch!