Powdering One's Nose
Nothing like all the ladies going to the restroom en masse
I think we can all appreciate how upsetting it would be, as a woman, to be forced to use a restroom that was full of men, dicks dangling over the urinals. And conversely, how alarming and confusing it would be for those same men to encounter a femininely attired person with a partial updo, plum red lipstick, and a Louis Vuitton handbag emerging from one of the stalls, then standing next to them at the sinks as they lathered up their perfectly manicured hands with classic French nails. Then there’s the issue of a woman in a full-length gown having to drag her taffeta skirt through sticky urine. Yes, most men have lousy aim.
Also disconcerting for women is having to stand behind a big hunk of a guy as they wait in line for a stall in the ladies’ room at Wrigley Field. Yep, this guy is just looking to do his business, but he’s relegated to using the women’s restroom because he doesn’t have the right equipment to gain access to the gent’s loo. Whether he’s threatening or enticing to the ladies, no one wants or needs this encounter. We’re all just looking to take our dump or wee in peace.
All of these new laws about restrooms — IDIOTIC. And for those who identify as male or female but are required to use the opposite gender’s facilities, this is traumatizing, embarrassing, and can be downright dangerous.
Let’s stand behind our trans friends and accompany them wherever they choose or are forced to go. Guys… get up from the table and be prepared to join your trans man friend at either the lineup for the men's or the ladies’ restroom. Be there to make small talk with the ladies or to act as a buffer in the men’s line. Address questions respectfully. Discourage bullies. Diffuse arguments.
Trans women are a frequent target of sexual assault, and accompanying them to the men’s room is a matter of safety. Make a show of force (three or more women) and be prepared for confrontation. Know in advance what you will say to diffuse the situation. Be prepared to protect your friend both physically and emotionally. This may mean getting familiar with self-defense techniques.
This is what we do: we protect those we care about and those who are vulnerable and targets of hate.
We all need a little help from our friends.
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